Todays post is continuing on with the ‘Balance’ theme. I asked a fellow mummy blogger to guest post on my blog today to get a little insight into how another mum/mom copes with juggling it all.
Introducing Mari from The Mom Chronicles 2. Check out her blog and don’t forget to show some love here too x
Today I’m writing something a little different. Today’s post will be on surviving life being an adult, A parent and wife. Most of you may know I have two year old little girl named Sophia. I’m also engaged to my fiancé of almost 9 years. Wow that’s long you may think but being together that long may have its ups and down in a relationship. Before we had our daughter we were already going through hardships my fiancé had lost his job and I had to make the ends meat so to speak to take care of our home. I didn’t mind doing that but after a while it became to much to bear with everything falling on my back. You may think it’s wrong or I’m not being mature but believe me it’s nothing like that. Most of my life growing up was hard and I always had to fend for myself so I knew already how it felt to take care or yourself and someone else.
When I became a mom and before I even knew I was pregnant I always wondered how’d it feel to have a child and how it would feel to raise one on a one person income at home. But that all changed when I had my daughter. I didn’t think about oh how am I gunna get her food or clothes or anything. All I knew is if she needed it I had to get it. If it wasn’t a necessity I wouldn’t bother getting it right away. I knew having a child wouldn’t come easy things had to change, budgets needed to be made and a lot of planning had to be done when my daughter was born. Now that she’s here and is a toddler already I’ve made so many sacrifices for her and my family. When things get tough I pray a lot and look for help where I can get it most either government help or family if need be. Yes you may think the government oh I’m only asking for there help well because I truly need it not because I’m trying to screw the system. I’m not like that . I’m one of those families where if I need it I’ll ask not if I don’t I’ll just take advantage of it because I can. I’ve gone through so much in my life to take advantage of anyone let alone make myself look like a fool. There were so many times before I moved down to Florida where I had to sacrifice a lot just for my family. I’ll give you an example in order for me to be able to move down here I had to move in with my cousin for three months and my fiancé had to work down in Florida to get things situated with money for our new home. I was away from him for 3 months that means he didn’t see me or the baby for that long only through video chat and talking on the phone. He wasn’t able to send me money a lot because he had to save up for our new place so when times got hard for me to buy my daughter her baby formula for new clothes what did I I do? I sold my jewelry well all of it to be exact to buy her things. This is something I will never regret or look back on. She comes first always. Before myself or my fiancé. Yes I miss my jewelry but oh well I can always buy more later on.
Now when I finally got to move down here it was fantastic I love my new home the area is very different from NYC that’s where I useto live. A few months past and things started getting bad, my fiancé lost his job then we got into a car accident lost our car and things started going down hill. Please don’t feel any pity I’m a strong girl and yes we are okay our car is not but who cares. My life is more important then a damn car. So because he lost his job we had to figure out ways to make money in order to pay our bills and rent. We had purchased a iPad the new one and a nice HD flat screen tv. So what did we do? We got rid of it all the tv,iPad and tv stand in order to survive life’s troubles. We paid our bills and rent and things were okay again. Yeah it sucks we have no tv and still don’t but I’m surviving that’s all that matters to me. After that was all said and done. Our cellphone bill got extremely high because of my fiancés job situation and got cut off so no iphone6 for mama no more but oh well I got wifi in my house and can still use it. Now I get a new phone , cheap one but all I need it for is calling and texting family so I’m not stressing so much about it. So if you ask me how my year went there you have it things get tough and a lot tougher when there thrown at you so quickly but I am a firm believer in Gods paths are being chosen for me and he’s putting these in front of me because he knows I’m strong and will get through anything.
So if you are down about things or life’s troubles got you in a mess- there’s always someone out there struggling 10x more then you. So keep your head held high and never give up! Pray and God will lead your way…
God bless – XO Mari